erotic algorithm
Erin Kate Lyman
sexologist & coach
We have the right to our own bodies.
— Shere Hite
© Erin Kate Lyman. All rights reserved.
Photo credits @philroywashere
Work
I lean loosely on the machine learning training process I used during my time in the tech industry. I now use a modified version with my sexology coaching clients to define your own erotic algorithm:
Data collection – A historical look back at all your romantic and sexual experiences to date.
Feature engineering – Using all the data collected above, what are the possible features you could incorporate in your erotic algorithm?
Hyperparameter optimization – High level configuration of consent and comprehensive sex education governs the entire training process.
Feature selection / pruning – Determine the most important features to include in your model.
Continuous learning – The process of real world experience, data collection, model analysis/revision, next round of training is iterative. Your algorithm will grow more and more robust, strong enough to handle a wide array of different situations.Read the full essay here.
About
My name is Erin Kate, pleasure & wellness technologist. I spent over a decade in tech working with software and machine learning before pursing my sexologist certification through the Sexual Health Alliance.My work as a wellness and pleasure technologist has taken me all around the world.
A few highlights:
• studied at the Kinsey Institute
• trained with Evolutionary Dominatrix
• Sextech School graduate
• sextech app developer
• invited to pitch at international sextech conferences
• AI & intimacy panelist at Sexual Health Alliance Annual Conference
Contact
Curious about a session or class? I'd love to hear from you.
Work with Me
Free 20 min online coaching consultation
Individual online coaching | $100 / hr
Couples online coaching | $150 / hr
Classes
Masculine Strength through Submission
Wed Sept 30th 6 – 7:30 PMA class about shedding shame, embracing softness and surrender, and learning to clearly communicate your desires and boundaries.Society tells you to be strong, to lead, to be tough, to not cry. There’s no place for your feelings of shame and weakness, your desire to yield, to serve, to be led. That’s no way to live—in the bedroom or anywhere. Lay that burden down and surrender to your desires for softness, service, smallness, and being held. Leave shame at the door and bring your shadow self into the light.This class will give you the language to articulate clearly what you want and how to get it. You will be led through exercises to better understand why you want what you want. You will gain insight into the psychology of submission and the science behind masochism. You will gain tools, tactics, and the confidence to bring your submissive self out of fantasy and into real life.
Lady with a Whip: History of the Dominatrix
Oct 13th 6 – 7:30 PMA provocative journey through the evolution of a powerful and misunderstood erotic archetype across history, myth, and culture.Picture a Dominatrix—what comes to mind? A leather-clad Betty Page with her iconic bangs? A strict governess brandishing a riding crop? How about an ancient Mesopotamian goddess carrying a cornucopia of flowers and fruits? The Dominatrix is a polarizing figure, inspiring fantasy, lust, excitement, fear, and ridicule. Join us as we explore the history of the Dominatrix from the ancient Fertile Crescent to the present in myth, fashion, and pop culture.
From Good Girl to Wicked Woman
Wed Oct 28th 7 - 8:30 PMA class about shedding the “good girl” script, embracing your dominant side, and building the confidence to claim your power, set boundaries, and ask for what you want.You were raised to be a good girl—nice, sweet, submissive. You turned the other cheek. You obeyed. You played nice. You stayed small. You grew up and learned that what you were taught didn’t serve you as a grown woman—taken advantage of, walked over, and worse. You long to own your more dominant side and bring her into the light—bedroom, boardroom, everywhere. But if you’ve always been “nice”, how do you start?As you explore femdom after Purity Culture in this class, you’ll learn how to claim your dominant energy, ask for what you want, and get it. You'll learn how to set boundaries and strictly enforce them. You'll gain the tools, tactics, and confidence to bring your domme self out of fantasy and into real life.
Thank you for your interest!
I'll be in touch soon.